Weak Subject of a Real Man: Erectile Dysfunction Explanation
It’s no secret that men do not like to discuss their intimate problems especially erectile dysfunction. That is why erectile dysfunction sometimes becomes a real tragedy, both for the man himself and for his loved ones.
What Helps a Man to Make the First Step in Erectile Dysfunction Treatment?
It’s no secret that men do not like to discuss their intimate problems neither with wife, nor with doctor, with anyone else. That is why erectile dysfunction sometimes becomes a real tragedy, both for the man himself and for his loved ones. It is a fact that recently there are quite effective, safe and easy-to-use drugs to cope with erectile dysfunction.
To express opinion on this issue, Canadian Neighbor Pharmacy asked the therapist, Abbie Sutton.
Q: What is the cause of a rigid reluctance of men to discuss their erectile dsyfunction, even with specialists. After all, very often this unwillingness leads to more serious illnesses, divorce, depression.
A: It is rightly pointed out – there is a “tough reluctance” of men not to speak about erectile dysfunction because women also do not tend to discuss their intimate problems with the stranger. But men usually guard their private lives much more jealously. How paradoxical it sounds, but these are men with purely masculine character features, the most difficult to persuade to go to the doctor and talk about their problems. Why? Everything is very simple. A real man does everything himself, he is the leader, the master. If he resorts to help, then it is incompetent. Recognition of one’s own insolvency for a true man is unacceptable. For him, it is equivalent to the cessation of existence.
Q: “So, there’s no way out?” If a man is “real”, then in case of which he will not go to the doctor, and will not be treated erectile dysfunction?
A: There is always a way out. Probably, in order to “allow men to become weak” and seek help, a man must sufficiently appreciate some of his achievements – in work, in the family, in other aspects of life. Increasing, thus, his self-esteem, a man subconsciously will consider his own health a more significant value. He will feel “worthy” of good health and adequate intimate life. A loving woman should help him do this. Of course, a preparatory work can be carried out by an experienced doctor or psychologist. A man is very serious about choosing a personal doctor for ED treatment and other sexual problems, someone with whom he can be frank, whose advice he will follow.
Q: From the point of view of a man, what character a doctor should have to help men get rid of the problem?
A: Well, the fact that he must be attentive and professional is understandable. But what should hes personal qualities be like? Experience shows that he must embody a certain golden mean:
- confident, but not self-confident;
- optimistic, but not a joker.
The male patient does not want to be with the doctor an older friend, but a tactful adviser. At the same time, a “senior comrade” may be much younger or even a woman at all.
Q: Even those men who still decide to come to consultation, very reluctantly agree to medical therapy. According to the doctors, they are impatient, capricious, do not want to come to terms with the presence of this or that problem including erectile dysfunction.
A: Quite right. But this is a consequence of men’s knowledge of the possibilities of modern medication. A man who decided to visit a specialist (urologist, andrologist or endocrinologist, engaged in male potency), as a rule, is seriously preparing for this visit. As for the drugs that help with ED, numerous studies showed: a modern man rarely plans in advance the time of proximity with a partner. Therefore, a man will feel more comfortable if the drug that he uses will be quick-acting. In accordance with the above study, the most important thing that men would like to change in their sexual lives is the lack of communication with a partner, and almost every fourth interviewee would like to increase the spontaneity of intimate contacts. Such desires are understandable. A man is able to fully communicate with a partner during a time of intimacy only if he does not have to constantly concentrate on his erection. Spontaneity of intimate contacts is also an indicator of a good erection, and also significantly “increases the degree” of partners’s mutual interest.
Q: Does it Mean Men Strive to Carry out Erectile Dysfunction Treatment with Doctor Assistance more Often?
A: Of course, it is and these changes take place very fast. Still, men’s self-confidence takes the highest place in the scale of men’s values that it is possible to sacrifice some principles for it. Researchers even came up with a special name for those men who do not want to “surrender” to years and diseaeses, want to carry out a rich intimate life and are ready to consult a doctor and carry out the necessary erectile dysfunction treatment if necessary. They were called “vita-sexuals”. In Canadian Neighbor Pharmacy opinion, it is very symbolic.